1.22.2008

Homesick?


I watched the movie Once tonight. I HIGHLY recommend it. (As long as you understand it's Irish, and being Irish, they use "the 'F-WORD'" a great deal.) The film is based in Ireland - Dublin to be specific. I was in Dublin on October 31-November 2, 2006. Watching this movie brought back so many memories and emotions, and also really made me reflect on US culture vs. European culture.

There's one scene where the female lead has to walk about three blocks away from her flat to get batteries for a CD player. As I watched her walking back, earphones blasting (beautiful) music, wearing sheep slippers, robe, and PJs, I found myself getting nervous for her. I kept tensing up, waiting for some thug to either leap from the shadows or creep up behind her as she walked alone at night. I'm not giving anything important about the movie by saying that she was NOT mugged. When she got back home however, I realized that she had no fear of walking down the street at night. She had no fear of being alone. She had (or at least showed no fear) of her city. Can we claim the same? I am sad to guess that I don't think most Americans in most cities would feel the same sense of peace walking alone at night. I live in suburbia, and I drive to the grocery store about a quarter-mile down the road from me - regardless of the time.

Now, I feel I both ought to and ought not mention the fact that safety is not the sole reasoning Americans have for driving everywhere rather than walking. We're a fat lot of lazy bumps for the most part. There. I said it. Another reason, in all fairness is: especially in suburbia, everything is so spread out, it's impractical to walk most places. Depending on the area, the local grocer's may not even be within a reasonable bike-riding distance. *sigh*

My dear friend Sully and I have often talked about this dichotomy. We've come to agree that the suburban sprawl in conjunction with the appalling lack of sidewalks, is not only contributing to the "obesity epidemic," (PLEASE don't let me get started on that crap) but also contributing to the steep decline in the sense of community in small-town America at large. Again: *sigh*

I titled this entry: "Homesick?" for a reason. Watching the movie tonight, I felt such a strong urge to return to Ireland, I can only describe it as homesickness. While in Cork, my wife and I struck up conversations with perfect strangers, and were quickly treated to an Irish helping (similar to "heapin' helpin'" in the states) of genuine openness, friendliness, genuineness, and hospitality. The hospitality was most memorable from this list, I think. We were in a pub. The guy with whom we were talking didn't own the pub, but the fact was: we were on his island, and as his guests, he would take pains to see that we were looked after. The best part: he wasn't the exception to the rule. We experienced similar hospitality in Dublin by a group of three friends in another pub. As far as they were concerned, as long as we were in their city, we were friends. (Yes, this included exchanged rounds of Guinness.)

I bring all this up with a complaint about the lack of city pride, ownership, and community responsibility in mind, but my complaining won't change anything. On such a deep level, I ache to live in a place where perfect strangers are assumed friends. I yearn for a sense of pride in my town that influences me to make sure that out-of-towners are taken care of. I so DESPERATELY desire to live in a place where I can breathe the air without resentment.

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Wow, I just opened another can of worms. I resent my city. Is that bad? If I'm a horrid person for that, I'm sorry, but that's how I feel. I won't go into it (I actually just deleted two paragraphs of me whining), but I would love suggestions.

On that note, feel free to distribute this address to any who you might think would enjoy it. I'm not looking for readers; I'm looking for kindreds.

1.17.2008

Final rant, then I'm going to sleep

AND YOU KNOW WHAT, DANGIT?! I'M NOT CHANGING BECAUSE SOME JERK-OFF MADE ME FEEL BAD FOR A DAY OR TWO!!!! I AM NOT "MITTYESQUE," I LIKE MY FROG AVATAR, AND I LIKE BEING THE PHILOSOPHIC BARD!!!!!!

Changing how I present myself based on outside influence would simply be proving him right.

This is me, world. You don't like it? Up yours.

Peoples is peoples, Froggy.


So I got all pissed off. I changed my display name, I deleted a bunch of comments I'd left on other peoples' blogs, etc. Why would I do such an emotionally-charged, uncharacteristically me thing?

I've pretty much always held to the mantra: "I don't give a flying f--- what anybody thinks about me! I'm happy with me, so if the rest of the world doesn't like it, they can all get bent!" My steadfastness in this (as well as nonviolence) was shaken recently.

To make a long, sordid, and truth be told: boring-as-hell story short, I took a side in a blog fued. I've since learned that this is something no one should ever do unless they are completely ready to die for their side. It got ugly, and one of the jack-offs on the other side decided I was a good personal target. (Honestly, I think it was because I seemed to be the only one on my particular side that was expressing myself clearly enough to BE a target.) So, he shifted his stance, cocked his arm back, and started firing steamy, smelly, sticky excrement at me - instead of his declared enemy: the girl whose blog it was in the first place.

I can take insults. You can tell me I'm ugly, stupid, fat, a horrible dancer (this is a given), or WHATEVER really, but based on what I've written to date, you can probably imagine that I feel the sting when someone says I'm fake. Especially about how I express myself.

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I can take constructive criticism. Telling me I try to write with more intelligence than I actually possess is fine, but don't tell me I'm not to use certain words based on my geographic location.

That's what he did.

I use the old form of the word "shit" sometimes. "Shit" is one of my favorite words and rarely do I hear it without at least smiling (seriously, ask my wife), but sometimes, I say "shite" for a change of pace or to lighten my inference. I also use the words:

Rubbish
Bollocks
Bugger
. . . . the list goes on!

I like words that aren't typically American because I view the typical American as a blunderer and (to put it kindly) not all that adept at the very language they insist everyone else lean.

I don't believe I'm being fake for attempting to broaden my vocabulary. There are just some WANKERS out there who don't appreciate it. Well, bollocks to them, yeah?


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In other news,

My business may have just turned a corner! I made several sales calls yesterday, made some fantastic contacts, and hopefully got my foot in several doors - quite literally. I may begin working with real estate stagers to get some residential work! I'm really excited about it, but it's not really interesting enough to blog about, so MOVING ON!


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I watched "Juno" tonight. I really liked this film. There were some parts I felt a tad awkward watching, but on the whole, I enjoyed it. Maybe tomorrow I'll finally get around to watching "Hot Fuzz."

1.15.2008

The World is Full of Assholes

I changed my display name, you may have noticed. It's a story I don't really feel like going in to right now. Let's leave it at: There are people in this world that make me question my level of belief in passive-aggression.

I need chocolate.

1.14.2008

Place Holder

I feel like I haven't posted in actual post in a long while. This isn't one. This is just to say that there's one coming. I'm working on an idea: The Key to Human Nature Revealed in a Bag of Nuts.

Sounds good, huh? STAY TUNED!

1.12.2008

Laughing my butt off at 2am

So this is a short post. It actually only exists because I just picked myself up off the floor. The following quote not only made me laugh harder than I have in days, but also irrefutably proves that I am a HUGE NERD!!!!!!!!

From majorgeeks.com:
"There are 10 types of people in this world. Those who understand binary and those who don't."

HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!
*sniff* ok . . . I'm better now. Goodnight.

1.08.2008

Segmented

I've realized something today: when I look back on my life, thinking about various fond (and sometimes not so fond) memories, it doesn't flow. When I reflect on my life, it's segmented.

There are pieces of my childhood for instance, that I don't remember. Granted, kids aren't interested for the most part, in keeping strict mental records of the passing summer days. They are more concerned with cramming as much fun in as possible before the street lights come on and whether the ice cream truck has come yet or not. Nevertheless, most people that I've talked to about their childhoods can give a rough account. Some count by the school years, others by what house they lived in. I really only have four major breaks: (1) before/after I started homeschooling, (2) before/after my family moved to Illinois, (3) before/after I met my wife, and (4) before/after the birth of my daughter.

Since I'm only 26, I suppose it could be worse, but I find it more than a little disconcerting that I can't remember more of my childhood. I am fortunate however, to be able to say that the memories I do have are quite good, and they make for great bases for short stories. (That, by the way, was where I started with one of my book ideas. More on that at a later date.)

1.07.2008

WTF

Human beings are among the most volatile, variable, and fickle things (for lack of a better word) on this planet. Earlier this morning, I posted a blog in which I detailed some passions and dreams I have. I wrote with a dreamy, almost ethereal sense of hope for the future.

I should back up...

I own a small business that is taking its dear sweet time to get to the point where I can actually pay bills. My finances are far from secure right now. When I sit down to sort out the budget, I can feel the weight on my back getting into a comfortable (for it anyway) position - settling in for a nice long visit.

Money is one of my least favorite necessities in this life. I loathe the fact that our very culture would come to a grinding halt without it. I despise the fact that I can't exist in this country without a certain amount of the damnable green stuff. I hate that people - myself included to a point, are consumed with the gathering and hording of little slips of paper with pictures of dead men on them and the myriad of ways in which they can exchange these "presidential flashcards" for items to make their over-priced loft apartment a bit more like the one in the IKEA catalog.

I somehow don't think my aversion to money would be quite so acute if I had more of it.

All of that to say: I don't have much money right now. If fact, I'm starting to see more and more red in the balance book with each passing week.

My full-time job right now is to get my business going. Finding work isn't a paying gig. Business is picking up, but slowly. (I'm rambling. Here comes the point.) I pick up side work to attempt to keep the bill collectors at bay. One side gig I do is running sound systems for various events with a friend of mine. I thought I had a three-day job coming up this week, but recently found out it wasn't going to happen. This right on the heels of having another hope crushed.

Two days ago, I decided that I was going to join the local police department. I was really starting to get excited about the various opportunities it would offer. I found out today that I am not eligible due to the disqualifying fact that I have gotten a rather . . . serious speeding ticket within the last 5 years.

What now? I'll make $25 tomorrow unless I can find some more immediate money. $20 on Friday. Woo hoo! $45 effing dollars for a week's work!

I'm so ungrateful for the work I do have. I know the truth I need to hear. It's poking me in the back of my mind, but I keep telling it to go screw itself; I'd rather sit in my own self-pity.

Maybe I should self-publish. There's something else that doesn't pay immediately.


I'm really sorry this post is so freaking depressing, but it's my blog, so I'll write whatever is in my head. :)

Art in its many forms


I'm an aspiring artist. The problem is: I can't figure out which media I prefer. This one is pencil/paper/digital, but I've also done photography, watercolor, and oils. Then there's writing - my true love.

I would love to someday have a job that enables me to write whatever the heck I want and get money for it. (Yeah, that'd be sweet, right?) The biggest hurdle I now face is: how to get there.

I saw a brief segment on TV yesterday, where a well-spoken, well-educated, and very inspiring lady mentioned writing. She said, "If you want to be a writer, self-publish. Self-publish your first book and hustle. Get your book in as many places as you can, sell as many copies as you can, and once you've sold a number of copies that you're comfortable with, take your book to a publisher and say, 'ON MY OWN, I've sold this many copies. Give me a chance.'"

This was inspiring for me, since I am currently working on three different books.

Suggestions? I'm listening.

1.05.2008

1.04.2008

vid test


So, this is my friend Brian about six years ago. We'd gone to the grocery store for some frozen pizzas and found this mask lying in the produce section. And so was born: Demon Skull Man. We even made a song about him that we performed in the parking lot later that night. Ah, memories.

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No really, I was just trying out the video posting capabilities of Blogspot to see if I wanted to start a video podcast. Looks like it works.

Don't look now, but I think you just stepped in your own bullshit.

People are strange, aren't they?

Ok, here's the preface: it's 1:15 a-FREAKIN-m, and I'm sugared and caffeinated so bad I was shaking. I actually just finished a peanut butter sandwich to try to balance out my guts. I don't like shaking. At any rate, it's late, I can't sleep, I'm wired, so YOU get to hear about it! Here we go:

People are strange. The answer to the question was: "yes." I used to work for an automotive cosmetic reconditioning company (I painted effed-up bumpers so they looked good enough for the used car lots to sell for way more than the car was really worth) that we shall call "Bob's Bumpers." I worked with several other guys in this company, and most of them - being the good little conformists they are, were enraptured by the company. These automatons saw Bob's Bumpers as being the best thing since the invention of the bumper itself. There were, of course, those of us who have a slightly more aware (my dad would say cynical) view of the world and things around us. We understood that working for Bob's Bumpers was a good opportunity for a time, and a great way to maybe make some killer money. The problem is: you can't spray paint for 20 years. One guy, we'll call him Ferdinand, got to the point where he just stopped trying. He would take naps in his truck on the lot, half-ass the majority of his work, antagonize management at Bob's Bumpers, and generally do everything that would get a person fired from most companies. In the end, Ferdinand did get fired. I eventually quit as well. Another guy that went through the training class with Ferdinand and me sounds like he may be nearing the end of his rope as well. Although good ol' Ferdy and I handled ourselves differently when it came to our work and how we left the company (he left with a double single-finger-salute, I with a genial letter of resignation wishing them the best success in the future), we do have something in common: after we left, we felt liberated.

I ran into Ferdinand today at a local coffee shop. (Not Starbucks - DOWN WITH CORPORATE GIANTS!) He's playing drums full time in a metal band now, and feels so much more alive than he has in years. He said, "I make about a quarter what I did at 'Bob's Bumpers,' but I'm about a hundred times happier." I feel the same way. When I left my old job, it was to start my own business. It's going REALLY slowly. In fact, the reason I went into the coffee shop in the first place was to pick up an application (they're not currently hiring). Working for myself though, I feel so much lighter than I did when I had managers barking at me every day. It didn't help that the people I dealt with all day every day were used car salespeople. *shudder*

So what's my basis for saying people are strange? (Do I need one? I thought it'd be obvious by now.) In this case, I find it an interesting note that it was only after I'd left my job that I realized how oppressed I'd felt. I won't go back. Hard accounting says I should, but I got a C- in my accounting class, so whatever.

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In other news, you may or may not have seen that I used to have another post between this and my first. Yes. I did. I wrote it on New Year's Day at 2am, and was a bit drunk. I deleted it because I want the content of that post to be well thought-out, not just vomited onto my blog. Ok, that's gross, but you know what I meant.

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Yesterday, I was sitting at my computer when a phrase popped unbidden to my mind, and I burst out laughing. It's a good thing my wife wasn't home, or she'd have questioned my sanity . . . again.
The phrase: "Cheese it, boys! It's da fuzz!"

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Now for some culture:
You should go here: http://www.eastoftheweb.com/short-stories/UBooks/LadyTige.shtml
It's a short story called "The Lady or the Tiger?" I hadn't read it since high school, but it's an enjoyable and quick read. I think I might post links to short stories every so often. Let me know if you think I should.

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This is my little girl. Isn't she cute? This is kind of a goofy picture. Other than the green stuff (I think that was broccoli at some point), she looks kind of cross-eyed. Oh well, she's still super cute.